As I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed I tend to spend more
time one on one with friends versus getting big groups together. On a typical
weekend I’ll make plans with 1 friend or another, but rarely do I try getting multiple
people together. Recently I’ve been thinking about it because I sometimes
wonder if I hurt people’s feelings by not inviting them to do stuff with me and
other people. Which is never my intention.
I am all about true friendships. If I only had one friend,
as long as they were a real/true friend, that would be enough for me. And
typically throughout the different phases of my life I have a few REALLY good
friends and then a handful of more causal friends. That’s not to say I don’t
value and enjoy spending time with my more casual friends. I definitely do. But
I feel like I get (and therefore tend to give) more to my really close friendships.
We have deeper/more honest conversations. I trust them with the good and bad
aspects of my life and personality. I can be myself around them. And what I have
noticed is that these true/deep conversations seem to happen more on a one to
one basis. And I think it’s for that reason that I tend to like to hang out one
on one with people.
Don’t get me wrong, big groups can be fun too. It’s nice
not having to be such an integral part of the conversation sometimes. And you
can get different opinions/thoughts at the same time (i.e. when my friends and I
get together to watch The Bachelor). So there definitely are nice aspects to
getting groups together – obviously.
I guess the point of this post is that if we’re friends
and you hear me talk about going to dinner or hanging out with someone and not
inviting you, don’t be upset. It’s not because I don’t like you or want to hang
out with you. And if you want to hang out in a bigger group, you can organize
it and invite me. :P
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